Sunday, September 25, 2016

Catch me when I fall


Sometimes, my 5 year old little girl can drive me crazy like a pre-teen.

I guess that is normal as she is already very in touch with her feelings and choose to express it very clearly, regardless of whether it is a good or bad feeling.

In a way I think it is a healthy sign that she is able to show her emotions well. With that I do hope that she does not keep sad or angry emotions tucked deep inside her heart and let it turn into resentments, especially towards her own parents.

Anyway last night I was a little frustrated with her being so bossy and "taknak mengalah" with her little brother. Sometimes I just let it go and try to bear with the squabble. But there are times when it just drives me up the wall.

So she did get some scolding from me, and as usual she will show her protest by behaving quite "loudly" - that style where she stomps her feet and make sounds with her movement and all.

When we were getting ready for bed, she was still showing her protest but she clearly also wanted my attention. I was calming down and ready to let everything go and cuddle with her and her brother and all.

I did not know exactly what she was trying to do but suddenly her jerky movements sent her towards the end of the bed and she ended hitting the wall with a thud. 

I turned around and saw her curled on the floor, with a confused face. I guess it was not that painful but she seems to be deciding what kind of face to put on. In that dimly lit room (only the night-lamp was on), I saw a mix of  I-am-gonna-cry, how-did-that-happened, and about-to-laugh face.

I was pretty sure that it did not hurt her that much, so I let out a little laugh and asked if she is OK. As expected she did not take it well. Perhaps I made the wrong move and she got even angrier. Oops haha.

She stood up and lied on the comforter on the floor while I still struggle to keep my laughter within me (I swear the whole situation was so funny coz we did not even know how she could end up banging the wall and all! Wish I could describe it with words hahah).

So I said to her "Laa Bella, becareful next time. How did you fall like that?"

She did not answer that question. But what she said next was the turning point and it just melted all my frustrations with her attitude away.

"Kalau Bella fall, mommy catch la Bella" ("If I fall, you should catch me mommy") she said with a solemn face.

Awwhhh...Now I really did not see that coming from her.

Guilt quickly crept on me and I quickly got down to her level and offered her a hug and reassured her.

"Ohh..mommy tak sempat nak catch Bella tadi. Kalau Bella jatuh mestila mommy always catch you" 
("I did not have time to catch you just now.  I'd definitely catch you whenever you fall dear")

Thankfully, she seems to be more content after that. Then we all read some book and we all went to bed happily ever after.

Pheww..

Gah, parenting is always tricky. Sometimes I don't even know if my responses and action are right or wrong. You will always have your child's best interest at heart, but at times it also requires you to be sort of the "bad guy". 

The kids are just babies now. I just wish that I'll survive their teenage years when it comes to that later.

Wednesday, August 31, 2016

Introducing Ethissa, our new blog partner!

Ok, I am going to take some time to just sit back and enjoy the view of my blog on my screen.

Dang,  I HAVE COME A LONG WAY with this blogging thing.

Can you believe that it has been 11 years since I started blogging? Phew, that is quite a long time if you ask me.  It used to be a lot about myself and out of pure passion for writing.

And then it grew into something beyond the screen. I started meeting lots of new people off-screen through blogging events, which opened up lots of new opportunities to expand my horizons and sometimes even push me out of my comfort zone.

I am amazed at how I am able to keep this blog alive even when sometimes the dry spell can take so long, but in the end I always come back and give it the love it deserves.

I am glad that many have start to appreciate my writings and it feels good to know that they are able to relate and sometimes benefit from the information that I share.

In this blogging endeavour, there is nothing more valuable to me than those who believe in me and giving me their trust and support to keep this blog alive - that's you my readers, followers and my esteemed partners and brands.



Ethissa is a growing Malaysian baby online shop run by Eric and Grace, a husband and wife team who aspires to provide the best, handpicked premium quality baby products for the deserving Malaysian parents.

It all began when they both struggled to find essential items for their kids when they were working, and most of the time their preferred products are hard to find and also cost them a lot of money and time.

Realising that it was in fact a common problem among parents these days, they then decided to run their own online baby shop with a focus on good quality products which are safe for baby and kids (I absolutely love their organic baby care range).

The name Ethissa was created by combining the names of the lovely bubs - Ethan and Clarissa. Isn't that lovely? :)

Ethissa aims to provide only the finest for Malaysian's little ones, and they are committed to be always on the look out for excellent baby products to carry in their store.

Take a look at some of their products in store (I swear they are so adorable and oh so chic!) :

Cheeky Chomper bibs
Four Cow Farm Organic skin products
Kippin comforters (I mean how cute are these???) 
Maun and Lil toys and plushies

Little Innoscents organic baby skincare products 

Here is the current promotion running at Ethissa!  Stay tuned to find out more about upcoming promotions and new product releases.You can keep yourself updated by subscribing to my email updates at the sidebar! :)


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Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Trying to live better


I am just a normal human being, so every now and then I do get overwhelmed by what is happening in my life. That moment when you feel like you have so many things to do, but so little time to make use of. In the end you end up not doing anything productive anyway, and it just drives you crazier.

Ironically, we all have 24 hours, nothing more nothing less. Somehow, there are people out there who are able to deal with it successfully, and I have decided to try to follow their footsteps.

I have done a few things in the list above, and it has given me a very positive impact in my life.

Like very positive and it makes me feel good about myself.

I have tried no.1, no 3, no 12 (although still struggling), no 13 (although I do lose to cookies sometimes), no 16 (I swear this one really helps to clear the mind), no 17 (I think I have been liberated from fashion pressures), no 18 (same as no16) and I wish I could do no 20 a lot more often (the weather in Malaysia here is so unforgiving though.... ).

So how about you? Have you done any one of these before? How does it impacts your life for the better?

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

Another place to find natural products for your baby!

Just like any other new parent, I was a naive one at the beginning.

When I had Bella, I was clueless.

I guess that is a norm for first-time moms, so mostly my preparation was based on something that I already know or from what my parents have done for me.

When it comes to toiletries and baby care, there was always this one brand that I trusted (probably many in Malaysia trust this brand too). 

As I became more seasoned as a parent, I started to become more savvy about baby products and getting to know what are the real baby-friendly products.

I was surprised to learn that my used-to-be trusted brand was actually was not so child friendly at all!

I mean, the harsh chemicals, mineral oils and tear-free formulation? Did you know that they are not very ideal for children?

Baffles me how we all easily fall for their spectacular marketing.

So I started looking for products that are as natural as possible, preferably made from natural ingredients and a bonus if they are organic (and wallet-friendly...huhu).

Thankfully, there are more and more places that we can easily friend the real child-friendly products in the market out there. What is more awesome is that many also sells it online with interesting deals.

There are a few favourite places that I usually go to find things for my children, but it does not mean that I am not open to exploring new ones.

So when I discovered Ethissa, I was pleased to learn that they are actually run by passionate parents also seeking the best for their children. I personally feel closer to the shops like these, because usually these entrepreneurs really know what they are selling and they can easily relate to their customers.

Eric and Grace, the couple and founders of Ethissa have been kind enough to send me these lovely organic baby care products from Little Innoscents for me to try out with the kids.

Of course, I was more than happy to oblige!


Clock-wise:

1) Mineral powder - made from kaolin (white clay) with lavender and spearmint essential oils
2) Intensive soothing cream - with soothing calendula (I love calendula because it is soo soothing)
3) Hair and body wash - low suds and gentle, with Aloe Vera essence and sweet orange scent
4) Moisture rich baby lotion - this one is a little sticky to my liking, but it smells divine with Aloe Vera juice and Ylang Ylang essential oil
5) Goat's milk bar - with manuka honey and Ylang Ylang


In a nutshell, I really loved the subtle scents of the products. Well actually I am glad they have scents because I have a thing with lovely smelling products LOL. I personally love the texture of the mineral powder because it is smoother than other natural powders I have used before. The goats milk soap is lovely too. It lathers very well and has this dreamy scent close to a baby. Hehe.

Besides Little Innoscents, Ethissa also carries other natural and organic baby and child care products too, such as Butt Naked Baby, Buds Organics and Four Cow Farm. All of them are natural and organic options, perfectly safe for our little bubs.

They also carry other brands like Ergobaby, SkipHop and the stylish Storksak diaper bags (loveeeee) for the fashionable mommies out there. Hehe.

There is also this helpful Baby Tips section that Eric and Grace posts and wrote themselves, as part of sharing and added value for Ethissa customers.

Ethissa regularly have weekly deals and free shipping deals as well. That's awesome.

SHOP AT ETHISSA NOW


And let me know if you love Little Innoscents like I do :)

Saturday, June 25, 2016

Being a stay-at-home mom does take your social life away.

My main real life social network on most days. Heart.
If any of you are considering to leave a comfortable 9-5 job to become a work at home or stay at home mom, I would like to let you know that you also MUST BE READY to leave a substantial part of your social life.

If there is one thing I miss about my full time job, it would definitely be the people around me. Of course I am not talking about the toxic ones (every office will have this kind of breed, trust me) but I very much miss my peers and the ones close to me.

Much of it because we kind of became ears for each other, you know, the kind of people that makes your working life a bit more pleasant because of their honest and good company.

The people in the office who have became your friends, in fact. The ones who are usually willing to spend a bit of their precious time to hear about your day, to relate or hear about something that excites you or bothers you, or just a plain ol' rant to get some negative energy out of your system.

Those kind of people.

And, being a woman, we all cherish a person who can empathise with us. Not necessarily give a solution to our problem, but just be there to hear us out and let us unload our feelings.

I guess many can relate to this.

Staying at home and no more going to an office to meet these friends, well, it does rip your social life apart.

You will literally have only the kids to meet every day. A very minimal adult interaction on most days, what's more a person who can share your feelings then and there. No another person to provide you a shoulder or an ear to cry on the spot, if necessary.

So, many of us turn to social media to rant, or just express somewhat seems like a trivial thing (but actually does not sound so trivial when you tell it to a real person instead of posting it on to your Facebook wall).

Because of that, many have misjudged us and think that we stay at home moms have nothing more to do (when in fact there are loads of things to do.....@#$$%!! OK don't get me started on this one).

The point is, the next time you see a stay at home mom rant, or post something a tad more frequently on her Facebook wall, don't be too quick to judge that they do not have anything better to do, or they are just longing for attention.

Possibly, she is doing it because that could be the very last thing that helps her keep her sanity. Or maybe, she actually need a shoulder or an ear to cry or rant on at that point of time. We all know how much it hurts to keep feelings pent up inside. 

Just like any other human being, we also need social interactions with our peers.

Just like how people meet at work and have life conversations over breakfast, or randomly messaging each other through their office messaging network or email to destress after finishing a load of office work. Or like visiting a peer in the next cubicle for a quick chat to destress and enjoy some coffee.

I may have been more active on my social media these days, and sometimes I do laugh at my own silly statuses. But I am glad that it is helping me to survive my somewhat reduced social life.

I am glad that I have social media to connect to the people who care about me, vice versa. And I hope that they don't mind too.

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