Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Things to know before leaving your job and becoming a work-at-home-mom

It has been 2 months since I became a full working-from-home (WAHM) mom.

There were a lot of changes that I had to make in terms of my routines and the best part is I finally found time to do stuff that I have meant to do for so long.

Like washing the curtains, for example. And sorting out our old and new clothes.

The first month after I left my fulltime job, it was quite the "honeymoon" phase.

I woke up everyday enjoying the fact that I do not have to rush for work anymore, and all I did was catching up with the people and things I love.

No more responsibilities to worry about, no more deadlines, no more what-to-wear-today dilemmas, no more.

It was really fun.

I knew that it should not last for long though. Being a person who seems to "need" something to do, I finally got back on my freelancing track on around the 2nd month.

Things has been going steady ever since. 

Well, I don't earn as much as I did in my full-time job, but somehow, it feels enough. I get to do the thing that I love to do (writing) and I get some cash to fund my newfound hobby (sewing), I am happy that way. Alhamdulillah.

Anyway, I feel like I have earned the rights to share some advice with full-time working moms who aspires to be a WAHM or a SAHM too. So here goes:

It is normal to have fear of the unknown. 
It is normal to freak out at the thought of having no more financial income or at least a steady or secure income. 
It is normal to fear the uncertainties. 
It is perfectly normal to feel like event though u have left a full time job, you still want to achieve something for yourself, or keep on contributing to something. 
It is completely crucial that you believe that you will always have a portion of rezeki or blessings in this world. 
It is important that you continue to work hard and find something to make you feel happy and content. 
Believe that God is the ultimate one who gives us all His endless bounty and blessings. 
Seek and you shall find. Ask and you shall get the answer. 
With all that said, consider this my support for the biggest and best decision you would probably make in your life :)

Friday, November 13, 2015

Keeping the balance between siblings

These days I found myself working harder to strike a balance.

I used to be afraid that my love for my first born would deplete when I get a second child. When Bella was a baby, I admit that I cried when I thought about getting her a sibling. There was this guilt that I felt, something like abandoning her or something. So I held on to the idea until I was really ready, and when I felt like she was.

But the love-depleting feeling was totally wrong.

In fact, gushes of love just came out of nowhere, and surprisingly it is more than enough to shower both of them extras. Like I love Bella 200% and I love Khaleeli 200%. Something like that.

Khaleeli is getting older now, and boy he really knows how to put up a challenge with her sister.

I find myself having to put on the referee hat so many times in a day, struggling hard to be fair and let them know that I am trying.

Sometimes I gave Bella the merits, sometimes Khaleeli.

I try to teach Bella to give-in to her little brother, you know, anak sulung kena mengalah kan? But sometimes I also don't want to put too much pressure on her.

Khaleeli on the other hand does not know better. He is after all a carefree 1 year old who still thinks that the world revolves around him. If he was forced to back down, I had to bear with his protest. But thankfully he is easily distracted. Phew..

I even subconciously try to make everything fair for them, even at sewing.

Like today I finished a dress for Bella, and the next project has to be something for Khaleeli. Vice versa.

The same thing happens during shopping for their stuff too. I dunno, it just felt that I am obliged to do so.

Aiyo, only 2 children and this is hard already. I don't know how parents with more children do it.

Other than that, I do enjoy the view most of the time. The sight of them playing together in peace always makes my day. And it also baffles me how I managed to come to this. I guess I am more capable than what I think. We always underestimate ourself don't we?

So how do you maintain a balance between your children? Any methods worth sharing? I am all ears! :)

Thursday, November 05, 2015

Cultivating a handwashing culture with Lifebuoy Global Handwashing Day 2015

We all know the importance of washing hands.

The problem is, we tend to forget to do it, or sometimes, we choose to ignore the fact that it is a MUST to wash hands properly with soap.

Many of us take for granted that water itself can clean our hands, when the truth is not all of the nasty bacterias and virus are eliminated only through water.

I try my best to teach Bella and Khaleeli the importance of washing hands, especially after using the toilet and coming home from an outing, or before eating.

Although I do try, I admit that I myself also fail at doing it. Sigh. Yeah sometimes I take these things for granted too, thinking that water suffices. So the pemalas. Huhuh.

Anyway a few weeks ago, we were invited by Lifebuoy to be reminded again about the importance of washing our hands. Best of all, they also reminded us on HOW TO WASH OUR HANDS CORRECTLY. 

Haa! That is something that we should improve on right? I mean, using soap is one thing, but getting it spread properly on the hands is another.

On the day, Lifebuoy launched Global Handwashing Day 2015 – an annual global advocacy day to increase awareness and build the wash-your-hands-with-soap culture in our society.

I came to know that Lifebuoy have been working closely with the Ministry of Health to build awareness in our school children for the past 5 years – which I think is pretty awesome right?

They had this cool “Program Dr Muda bersama Lifebuoy” program where selected students are trained with healthcare basic modules, as well as being empowered to promote and influence good hygiene behaviour among peers. Great move at using peer-pressure there. Hehe.

During the launching, they also featured a group of choral speakers who apparently won the competition for this campaign, from SK Putrajaya Presint 14. 

Choral speaking participant from SK Putrajaya Presint 14, performing their routine which features 7 steps in handwashing thoroughly. 
What I like about it is that by listening to their performance, Bella and I can now remember how to wash our hands properly with the right techniques! It is easy for me to remind her too, what I do is tell her to wash her hands like the “kakak and abang” did. 

Wash that hands properly girl!
Anyway, after the launching we also had the opportunity to explore Kidzania (it was the first time for us) and Bella was the happiest person! LOL. Even I felt like joining the crowd, too bad I look too old to do so. Bahaha.

Learning how to make Vitagen.
Two things in life you can't avoid Bella, death and paying your tax. LOL.
So a big kudos to Unilever and Lifebuoy for this move! This is for sure one of the great community care program a big corporation can give to the world. I strongly support this kind of move for our society and for our children.

And thank you for the opportunity too!

Friday, October 23, 2015

Mommy and Khaleeli's sleeping journey - Part 3 (and a special discount for a sleep course too!)

Wow, I can't believe that it has been what, 5 months since we started this sleep journey?

Gahh! Where did all that time go?

Anyway, yes, yes, part 3 is here, and I am glad that I am wrapping up this journey with a HUGE success! *dance, dance*


Many months ago, I have decided to sleep train Khaleeli as his sleep pattern was not improving ever since he was a baby. We were both exhausted, had so much interrupted sleep and were not getting enough quality sleep.

In Part 1, I met Sarah Ong from Sleep Champ Baby, and with her guidance, I started to sleep train Khaleeli by applying a natural and more laid-back method that works in time. Compared to the rigid, step-by-step sleep training method, I personally love this method because it just makes sense and most importantly, it did not require me enduring hours of Khaleeli wailing and crying it all out alone.

Instead, it revolves a lot in the concept of give and take, where I do the giving by listening to his needs and his feelings, and he takes in the love and care, knowing that he has all the emotional support that he needs to help him unwind and fall asleep after a long day. Whenever we both had too much of crying, it was perfectly OK for me to just do whatever it takes to calm him down and just try again another day.

In Part 2, I had some difficulties where he would wake up and insist to nurse me if he sees me around. I decided to let him sleep with his father, while I sleep in a different room with the big sister, so that his crying won't disturb kakak and so that he can learn to fall asleep on his own whenever he woke up in the middle of the night.

That happened for quite some time.

One day, after a lot of improvements in his sleeping pattern at night (as reported by the daddy), I decided to move back into our room and try to sleep as a family again.

The only problem is that he just wants to hog our bed. A total no-no for sleeping in his crib, he would even climb out of his crib to get to our bed.

So the solution is I had to sacrifice by sleeping on a mattress in the same room, while he continues to conquer our bed T_T. Now I regret buying a queen sized bed. (If you are having a baby and you are co-sleeping, please remember to buy a king size bed, heheh).

Other than that, I am very happy to report that he very rarely wakes up in the middle of the night now, and even if he does, he just falls back to sleep right away. He also has become our "alarm clock" as he usually will wake up around 6.30am to nurse. Probably too hungry already, because he sleeps quite early at night. I don't mind that at all, it helps us not to miss Subuh prayers too. Haha.


Welcome back, good night's sleep. And welcome back, sleeping in my own room again! LOL.

Although it took quite some time for him to finally get his sleeping sorted out, I am glad that we took the first step.

So in a nutshell, here are my top tips in order to make sleep training work for you and baby:

Andddd...if you are thinking of getting help from Sarah too, I am very happy to announce that Sarah is giving you, my lovely Mommy Confessionals blog reader the privilege to enjoy an RM50 discount on her upcoming sleep e-course:


I really think that this is a great opportunity, especially if you are tied with time, and prefer a self-paced learning module. There are a lot of other things that you will learn about you and your baby too, besides sleeping topics. You can trust me on this :)

This offer will end at 5pm on 29 October 2015, so don't take too much time to wait OK?

So, I hope that my story here inspires some of you who are also in the same boat that I used to be.

You know, sleeping is important for every family. It has its own vital function in order for us to live a happier, healthier life as a family. If you have sleep problems with your baby or children, I strongly suggest that you take the first step too. You will thank me later for this.

After all, a happy, well-rested mommy makes a happy family! :)

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Commenting on other people's children is not nice at all

Yesterday I was browsing through my Instagram and came across a celebrity post.

It was her daughter's birthday and that post was intended to wish her daughter.

She started with an honest line:

"....mummy sedih bila orang mengata Althea"
(It makes me me sad when people talk bad about you). 

That line tugged at my heart.

Unfortunately as a celebrity, her life is destined to be scrutinised by people and people can be mean. People judge her, throw nasty and judgemental comments and worst of all, they even extended it to her children, the innocent ones.

Maybe because she is a celebrity who always seem to look pretty all the time, her children who does not need all that adornment may look more "normal" and because of that people are just unhappy I guess?

Must be breaking her heart. I bet she is trying hard to protect her children.

Anyway, there has been many times that people give one too many comments on the appearance of my own children, but thankfully so far I am able to just ditch them and well, "embrace" the fact and just let it go.

Maybe they meant well, maybe it was just making a conversation, but personally I think that it is not a good point to use.

As a mother myself, I do try my best not to make negative comments about other people's children. I try not to make comparisons or not to simply blurt out lines that may sound casual, but in fact actually turns out to be bloody rude.

Like "sepetnya mata!", or "apesal gelap sangat" or "gemuknyaa" or "kurusnyaaaa..makan tak ni?" or "capangnya telinga" or "jendulnya dahi".

I mean, even if there is the slightest truth in it, I wish that people just shut their mouth if they don't have anything else nice to say.

Some people really need to learn that.

Children should be treated with some respect too. Imagine if someone comes up to you and give nasty comments about your appearance, would not that piss you off too?

Does not mean that because children seems to be carefree and ignorance, they do not have emotions and a heart.

Have some decency for the parents at least.

After all, there are tons of other conversation starter points to use with a parent, like is Doraemon really a cat, for example?



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